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The Hidden Epidemic of Shame

  • 13 Sep 2019
  • 11:30 AM - 2:00 PM (MST)
  • Monterey Pines Golf Course Grill, 1250 Garden Road, Monterey, CA 93940
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The Hidden Epidemic of Shame:

Identifying & Treating Maladaptive Shame

with Kristine B. Jensen, LCSW

Friday, September 13, 2019

11:30 am - 2:00 pm

11:30 - 12:00 Lunch (included), 12:00 - 2:00 Speaker

Shame shows up in our offices clad in the disguises of anxiety, atypical depression, PTSD, low self-esteem, relationship troubles, addiction, certain personality disorders and suicidality—all with shame at their core. Berne Brown’s work put shame on the radar but many researchers and thoughtful clinicians are advancing our understanding and our treatment of maladaptive shame.

In this presentation we will examine the latest thinking about what shame is and how it interferes with the development of the self. We will see evidence that shame can be passed on intergenerationally; and that young children are susceptible to shame within the mother-child dyad long before the left brain comes on line. This information is important in our treatment approaches.

Are shame and guilt the same? Is there a healthy purpose for shame—important in our evolution as a social species? How has shame become so maladaptive? Parenting practices, some religious tenets –do these contribute to perpetuating shame?

Helen Block Lewis, who died in 1987, a pioneer in the clinical study of shame, tallied the occurrence of major emotions in her client sessions and found that shame far exceeds anxiety, fear, and depression. In fact, she found shame to be the most common emotion expressed. But shame is often not obvious. Not recognizing and treating shame may account for the majority of ‘treatment failures’— the clients who reach a plateau and just don’t get better.

To treat shame we must recognize it. “Shame-speak”, the language of shame alerts us to shame’s presence in our clients’ conversations.  Shame driven behaviors are often counterintuitive -- aggression, pathological narcissism, domestic violence, addictions. Shame insidiously affects all aspects of our lives, most importantly our relationship to ourselves. It has been called ‘the cancer of the soul’.

Lastly, we will look at the research and outline a process for the successful treatment of shame. Because shame begins in the context of relationship, we will discuss the essential therapeutic relationship ingredients necessary to heal the damage shame has wrought. 

I hope you will add to this discourse with your comments and questions.

Teachings are appropriate for healthcare professionals as well as the general public. Healthcare professionals will be able to incorporate the tools and practices offered in this program in ways beneficial to clients or patients.


In this presentation, participants will learn the current thinking, both clinical and research based, on identifying and treating shame and the elements of successful treatment including therapists’ own awareness of their unhealed shame.  

  1. List the four primary behavioral patterns that people use to defend against shame: the Compass of  Shame
  2. Describe 2 key elements to healing shame that are essential in the therapeutic relationship
  3. Discuss how are shame and guilt different and why does it matter
  4. Explain 3 characteristics of shame

Presenter Bio

Kristine has practiced individual and couples therapy for over four
decades. For fifteen years she specialized in DID treatment,
consultation and workshops. In 2010, Kristine closed her practice
and worked with active military in Germany and Japan for two
years. Relocating to Monterey, she now has a part-time
practice and is the president of the Monterey County Chapter of CAMFT. Kristine has advanced training with John Gottman, Susan Johnson, and has for the past three years studied and read extensively on shame. She is in the process of writing a book on shame for the layperson with a psychospiritual  focus.

2 CEs are included in the registration cost for this presentation

(For Psychologists and nurses, the CE cost is $25 in addition to the price of registration. Please purchase CEs here AND make sure that you also register for the workshop.)


Licensed MC-CAMFT Members:  $28

Members of other local CAMFT chapters: $28

Licensed Non-Members and Guests:  $30

Pre-licensed:  $20

Course meets the qualifications for 2 hours of continuing education credits for LMFTs, LPCCs, LEPs, and/or LCSWs, as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.


Please contact Jennifer Farley at


Please Note: Certificates of completion will be awarded at the completion of the workshop to those who attend the workshop in its entirety, sign in and out, and complete the course evaluation form.

MC-CAMFT is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs and maintains responsibility for this program and its content.  Provider# 050097.

Information on Continuing Education Credit for Health Professionals

  • CE credits for psychologists are provided by the Spiritual Competency Resource Center (SRCR) which is co-sponsoring this program. The Spiritual Competency Resource Center is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. The Spiritual Competency Resource Center maintains responsibility for this program and its content.
  • The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE credits for LCSW, LPCC, LEP, and LMFT license renewal for programs offered by approved sponsors of CE by the American Psychological Association. 
  • LCSWs, MFTs and other mental health professionals from states other than California need to check with their state licensing board as to whether or not they accept programs offered by approved sponsors of CE by the American Psychological Association.
  • SCRC is approved by the California Board of Registered Nursing (BRN Provider CEP16887) for licensed nurses in California. 
  • For questions about receiving your Certificate of Attendence, contact Pamela Hughes from Monterey County California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists at For questions about CE, visit or contact David Lukoff, PhD at CE

You may cancel for a full refund up to 15 days in advance of the event, or a 50% refund between 5 and 14 days in advance of the event. No refunds for cancellations within 4 days of the event or for no-shows or failure to attend due to emergencies. Unused funds cannot be applied to future workshops. All requests for refunds must be submitted to Jennifer Farley by email at

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